There’s no point to a guy yelling, “Hey sexy baby” at me out of the passenger window of a car as it speeds past. Even if I was into creepy misogynists and wanted to give him my number, I couldn’t. The car didn’t even slow down. But that’s okay, because he wasn’t actually hitting on me. The point wasn’t to proposition me or chat me up. The only point was to remind me, and all women, that our bodies are his to stare at, assess, comment on, even touch. “Hey sexy baby” is the first part of a sentence that finishes, “this is your daily message from the patriarchy, reminding you that your body is public property”. — My First Name Ain’t Baby: ‘Hey Baby’ and Street Harassment (via official-mens-frights-activist)
Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.
Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace. —
Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, p381 (via mxnotmrdarcy)
This also applies to survivors of abusive relationships.
(Source: fromonesurvivortoanother, via webelieveyou)
These are the victims of the May 23, 2014 Isla Vista, CA killings. They’ll receive too little face time for their loss.
i want to cry :(
Police search for California man who shot at 3 women who refused to have sex with him -
A man in Stockton, California allegedly fired eight rounds from a 9mm handgun at three women who refused to have sex with him and his friends.
According to Stockton Police, the women had accompanied the three men to their home around 1:45 a.m. Saturday morning. The men asked to have sex with them, but the women refused. At that point, Stockton Police Department Public Information Officer Joseph Silva told ThinkProgress, the men demanded that the women immediately leave, and as they were doing so, one of the men opened fire.
(Source: freckledshins, via perfectlycromulentblog-deactiva)
A 14 year-old boy was recently raped at knife-point by a 20 year-old woman. When the story broke, it was primarily men who claimed he should have enjoyed it. It was feminists who validated his pain and spoke in support of him.
This is why we need feminism. —
"but men get raped too-"
AND LOOK HOW YOU HANDLED THAT
Self imposed loneliness is just as bad.